I've been thinking so much today about the dynamic of our friendships. Mainly between us gals(sorry,fellas). I watched an incredible indie film a few days ago, and it's intense-to say the least. Watch it, I'm jus' sayin. Anyway,much of the backbone of the film is the social differences between kids in high school, and how those social boundaries cripple everything. Think "Breakfast Club" only uber-intensified. Do we really come away from those mindsets as adults? I had my 20th high school reunion last fall, and that will do a number for putting right in your face what an ass you really were like growing up. I heard from far too many people,on hearing about the reunion, say 'people didn't even talk to me in school, why would I want to spend an evening with them now?' Yikes. and Blech. I have an incredible circle of friends. Some near and some very far. Some new friends, and some I've known since I was a little girl. But when you think about it, the ones closest to us are the ones the most like us. I think we call it compatibility. Like- minded. "having so much in common". But isn't it really because that makes us feel safe, ya know--better about ourselves?! Dan and I are very different, and I say to people that we balance each other, I'm the free spirit and he's grounded. I am emotionally bent, and he is practical. But when I think of the instances that I am upset with him--it's because of those differences. It erks me when he doesn't feel the same way I do! The nerve of him! I don't want to play 8th grade games when I'm going on 40. I don't want to be a hypocrite and teach my kids to appreciate and embrace diversity when I cling so tightly to like mindedness.
"It were not best that we should all think alike;
it is difference of opinion that makes horse races" Mark Twain
"Diversity is not about how we differ.
Diversity is about embracing one another's uniqueness" -Ola Joseph
"Everybody's happy, Everybody's free
We'll keep the big door open, everyone will come around
Why are you different?Why are you that way?
If you don't get in line, we'll lock you away..." -Typical Situation DMB
I do tend to connect with people who are like-minded, it is so much easier when we are on the same page.... However, I think so much of life is learning to simply accept one another (atleast the ones we care about and want to have in our lives)....
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